I'm completely with you on making damn sure you and your partner are on the same page, but I would never have even thought of having a back-up plan, to the point where it would've felt like a betrayal to have one - same as I would never think to sign a pre-nup, or keep sums of expenditures. Basically, to me, feeling the need to have a back-up plan would be a sign not to do it at all. All or nothing.
I could be betraying a bit too much information here, but if my boyfriend and I ever get married, he's having me sign a pre-nup first, because (jokingly) that's the only condition under which his divorce lawyer said he'd "allow" him to get married again. And this isn't going to happen for a very long time because he's still gun-shy about the idea of getting married because his divorce was so fraught with complications, threats of restraining orders, and police reports.
That's perfectly okay with me, because I'm also currently having us pay for our individual pieces of furniture separately and jointly buying the pieces we both will be using for our new apartment because I was in a bit of a hole after my first relationship of six years busted up and left behind a credit card record that's still lingering 11 years (and his marriage to another woman) later. Because should we break up, I don't want to have known that I paid for stuff I'm not going to get to keep.
Scars run deep, but just because you have them doesn't mean you love any less deeply, or any less passionately.
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I could be betraying a bit too much information here, but if my boyfriend and I ever get married, he's having me sign a pre-nup first, because (jokingly) that's the only condition under which his divorce lawyer said he'd "allow" him to get married again. And this isn't going to happen for a very long time because he's still gun-shy about the idea of getting married because his divorce was so fraught with complications, threats of restraining orders, and police reports.
That's perfectly okay with me, because I'm also currently having us pay for our individual pieces of furniture separately and jointly buying the pieces we both will be using for our new apartment because I was in a bit of a hole after my first relationship of six years busted up and left behind a credit card record that's still lingering 11 years (and his marriage to another woman) later. Because should we break up, I don't want to have known that I paid for stuff I'm not going to get to keep.
Scars run deep, but just because you have them doesn't mean you love any less deeply, or any less passionately.