Hear, hear, Rossi... except for the forgetting about love part. I'm enough of a romantic to believe that I will find love again, but as I said to Mice, while first love is the most wonderful love in the world, second love is more stable because you're protected against the blinder effect. And I'm in a similar situation with you because of my Aussie Boy (who lives in Melbourne). I don't get to see him often enough to determine whether or not I could have any sort of relationship with him (he comes to the US only once a year during Anime Expo) and he also lives too far away for me to consider a romantic attachment with him. But today, he wrote me a note which began "G'day lover" and my poor little heart went pitter-pat. He's so nifty in so many different ways (except that he smokes, but I'm willing to overlook it) and if I ever had the money or the opportunity, I'd maybe move to Melbourne to be near him. He's the only bunny I'd ever do that for, mainly because I've always wanted to go to Australia, too.
But I'm not getting my hopes up for anything. You're right in that you don't want to expose yourself to too much pain. The "relationship" I have with Brad is almost purely a sexual one. Because of how busy I am, and how skittish I am about relationships, it's keeping me satisfied on a sort of level. Like I said to some of my bunnies, I'm not about to let anyone push me into a romantic relationship if a) I don't want to and b) I don't like them enough. Again, nothing compares to first love, but you ought to feel some sort of whammy when you're with someone and most of my bunnies I don't get that way around. So I'll keep at it, and you keep at it, too. Make sure that Michael knows your intent, so that way if he does start getting mushy about you, you've warned him about how you feel. It's like a disclaimer in a way. ^_^
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Date: 2001-04-20 08:42 am (UTC)But I'm not getting my hopes up for anything. You're right in that you don't want to expose yourself to too much pain. The "relationship" I have with Brad is almost purely a sexual one. Because of how busy I am, and how skittish I am about relationships, it's keeping me satisfied on a sort of level. Like I said to some of my bunnies, I'm not about to let anyone push me into a romantic relationship if a) I don't want to and b) I don't like them enough. Again, nothing compares to first love, but you ought to feel some sort of whammy when you're with someone and most of my bunnies I don't get that way around. So I'll keep at it, and you keep at it, too. Make sure that Michael knows your intent, so that way if he does start getting mushy about you, you've warned him about how you feel. It's like a disclaimer in a way. ^_^
Have fun in the sun, luv...