Okay, well, first things first: your living arrangements. Are you somewhat happy where you are? I mean, besides having to live with BRM (which I commend you for. I don't think I'd be able to do it), do you *really* think you could live there for x amount of time? Is there an option of getting your own place in Wodonga, if living with him gets old? Second, you mention the cost of living is higher in Melbourne. Would you be okay to live in some one room basment hovel in a crappy part of town if your finances so dictated? Would you be able to live with presumably a lot less than you have now?
The other thing is, and I know that of which I speak, how badly do you want to actually go back to Melbourne? I had that desire to come 'home', but now that I'm here and my quality of living ain't so great, it's not that wonderful a place for me. Sometimes visits *are* better. Can staying in Wodonga and making weekend trips meet your needs to see friends and such help you get by? I'm a stupid American and have no concept of Australian geography, so you'll have to forgive me...
And how much does your work mean to you in Wodonga? You mentioned the possibility of advancement and such. Maybe when you've climbed up the ranks a bit here you could hunt a job in Melbourne, and make enough money to live comfortably there. The job is very important... From a purely economical standpoint, I'd say you'd be crazy to leave a place like that and go back to Melbourne where you're not certain of a job at all and no one's going to bend over to help you do anything. If you really like what you do, I'd stay in Wodonga.
The friends thing is difficult... But getting off your bum to make friends is a good thing. Maybe try volunteering or joining a local club. Or heck, *starting* a local club. I mean, if there's no martial arts type thing and you're interested in that, make a flyer or sommat and start posting it around town. You can't possibly be the only one. Relying on ficcers as your only friends really limits yourself. I know it sounds hideous, but let's face it: you need other friends. You *should* have other friends. Doesn't mean you have to abandon the ficcers, but making friends closer to you is always a good thing.
And as for the trip... depends on how much it means to you. Yeah, I know there are a lot of ifs and buts and questions in here, but it's your decision to make so I'm trying to get you to really think. :P Personally, I'd love it if you came to Canada next summer. Heck, I've got a place for you to stay if you come this way. :P But you have to put your choices on a scale... which means more to you: Moving back to Melbourne and having a lower standard of living, or staying in Wodonga with its lovely job possibilities and the promise of a chunk of time in Canada? You said yourself that a lot of the reason you've been miserable is you, and that's both understandable and correctable. If nothing else, you can wait until after you get back from your trip to move to Melbourne (or start saving to move). No one says you can't do both, you just can't do both at the same time. And since you've got a good job in Wodonga, and the prospect of bumming around overseas doesn't come along every day, *and* you can improve your mood and friendless status if you really try- I'd say stay in Wodonga, at least for now.
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Date: 2001-10-09 07:41 am (UTC)The other thing is, and I know that of which I speak, how badly do you want to actually go back to Melbourne? I had that desire to come 'home', but now that I'm here and my quality of living ain't so great, it's not that wonderful a place for me. Sometimes visits *are* better. Can staying in Wodonga and making weekend trips meet your needs to see friends and such help you get by? I'm a stupid American and have no concept of Australian geography, so you'll have to forgive me...
And how much does your work mean to you in Wodonga? You mentioned the possibility of advancement and such. Maybe when you've climbed up the ranks a bit here you could hunt a job in Melbourne, and make enough money to live comfortably there. The job is very important... From a purely economical standpoint, I'd say you'd be crazy to leave a place like that and go back to Melbourne where you're not certain of a job at all and no one's going to bend over to help you do anything. If you really like what you do, I'd stay in Wodonga.
The friends thing is difficult... But getting off your bum to make friends is a good thing. Maybe try volunteering or joining a local club. Or heck, *starting* a local club. I mean, if there's no martial arts type thing and you're interested in that, make a flyer or sommat and start posting it around town. You can't possibly be the only one. Relying on ficcers as your only friends really limits yourself. I know it sounds hideous, but let's face it: you need other friends. You *should* have other friends. Doesn't mean you have to abandon the ficcers, but making friends closer to you is always a good thing.
And as for the trip... depends on how much it means to you. Yeah, I know there are a lot of ifs and buts and questions in here, but it's your decision to make so I'm trying to get you to really think. :P Personally, I'd love it if you came to Canada next summer. Heck, I've got a place for you to stay if you come this way. :P But you have to put your choices on a scale... which means more to you: Moving back to Melbourne and having a lower standard of living, or staying in Wodonga with its lovely job possibilities and the promise of a chunk of time in Canada? You said yourself that a lot of the reason you've been miserable is you, and that's both understandable and correctable. If nothing else, you can wait until after you get back from your trip to move to Melbourne (or start saving to move). No one says you can't do both, you just can't do both at the same time. And since you've got a good job in Wodonga, and the prospect of bumming around overseas doesn't come along every day, *and* you can improve your mood and friendless status if you really try- I'd say stay in Wodonga, at least for now.