Hmmm. I'd caution you to keep in mind that the person who set up that dichotomy for you was a teenager.
I think the desire is to show somebody your bloody heart and the whole gnarly exposition of yourself is, in many cases, the desire to manipulate others' emotions in order to shape their actions. But sometimes it's a genuine appetite for human contact. My father once said that what most people in this world want more than anything is for someone to look them in the face while they talk about themselves. I think that's true-- and not because most people would sacrifice anything for allies & caretakers, even dignity, but because most people are hungry for connections. IE, they are lonely.
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Date: 2009-06-19 02:15 am (UTC)I think the desire is to show somebody your bloody heart and the whole gnarly exposition of yourself is, in many cases, the desire to manipulate others' emotions in order to shape their actions. But sometimes it's a genuine appetite for human contact. My father once said that what most people in this world want more than anything is for someone to look them in the face while they talk about themselves. I think that's true-- and not because most people would sacrifice anything for allies & caretakers, even dignity, but because most people are hungry for connections. IE, they are lonely.