Back in the Net Cafe...
May. 18th, 2001 03:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
deathpixieActually, this place is pretty good - I usually get onto a computer pretty quickly, and it doesn't cost me enormous amounts of money. And since Michael has neither computer nor Internet access, this is the only way I get my fix. :)
I saw my work mentor, Jan today, and did my computer training for the Children's Court Family Division; that's the side that covers children's welfare, sorta related to some of the stuff Hly does/used to do, I expect. The computer system is strange, but I should be okay. And it was great to see Jan, too. I told her about how I was enjoying the new job, and about BRM, and future plans. And we had sushi for lunch at this neato place in Hardware Lane I hadn't known about - really cheap, very nice, and they had low tables and beanbags if you wanted to eat in. :) Jan's terrific - she's always so enthusiastic about things it's contagious - and she is very into the bunny idea. She says I need to catch up on what I've missed. I told her I was working on it. *wicked grin*
A pity Yas isn't about today; she's got classes, and then kendo camp. Michael has a school thing until lateish tonight, so I have to entertain myself for a while. Which is why I ended up in here. :P But I did manage to get some "chores" done that needed doing. I got a bank draft for my Dexcon registration and mailed it to Dex. I sent off my FarliChilde's birthday prezzie. :) I went to Minotaur and got Midnight Nation issue #7, which looks to be an intriguing development in the story. I still need to find a gun for my Trinity costume tho' so after this I hit the toy shops in Melbourne Central. There's a "Toys R Us" in the basement which should prove fruitful. And I have escrima training tomorrow 9-11.
Life is good. Or at least, better than it has been for a little while.
I've been moping a bit the last week or two - I've probably driven the people on my "Friends" list nuts with various whingings and whinings. *wry grin* It could be the onset of more winter-like weather and a lack of sunlight over the last couple of weekends, or the fact I haven't had a sound nights' sleep for the past week. Whatever it is, I wish it would go away. I'm just feeling lonely again, is all. There's been a lot of mookiness about, everywhere I go. Or maybe I'm just more aware of it. Any way, the next bloody mushy love song I hear will result in violence, I swear. Probably involving speakers and plate-glass windows. ;)
The other thing that makes me feel less-than-perky is when the ficcer crowd is feuding again. I know people are human and they _do_ have arguments and fights, and believe me, I can handle that. It's just the politics involved - I can handle the fact that some people won't talk to others, but why the fuck should I be dragged into the dispute just because I talk to both? And what's with this sniping at each other in journals? If you have a problem with someone, for goodness' sake, just say so. Don't whinge about it in your journal knowing full well the other person is on your friends list and can/will read it. And even more so, don't act all betrayed just because that person objects to what has been said. Of course they're not going to like being slagged off in someone else's journal. At least be honest about it and confront them directly, giving them the chance to respond and without dragging in all your mutual friends.
Bah. Now I'm all crochety again.
I saw my work mentor, Jan today, and did my computer training for the Children's Court Family Division; that's the side that covers children's welfare, sorta related to some of the stuff Hly does/used to do, I expect. The computer system is strange, but I should be okay. And it was great to see Jan, too. I told her about how I was enjoying the new job, and about BRM, and future plans. And we had sushi for lunch at this neato place in Hardware Lane I hadn't known about - really cheap, very nice, and they had low tables and beanbags if you wanted to eat in. :) Jan's terrific - she's always so enthusiastic about things it's contagious - and she is very into the bunny idea. She says I need to catch up on what I've missed. I told her I was working on it. *wicked grin*
A pity Yas isn't about today; she's got classes, and then kendo camp. Michael has a school thing until lateish tonight, so I have to entertain myself for a while. Which is why I ended up in here. :P But I did manage to get some "chores" done that needed doing. I got a bank draft for my Dexcon registration and mailed it to Dex. I sent off my FarliChilde's birthday prezzie. :) I went to Minotaur and got Midnight Nation issue #7, which looks to be an intriguing development in the story. I still need to find a gun for my Trinity costume tho' so after this I hit the toy shops in Melbourne Central. There's a "Toys R Us" in the basement which should prove fruitful. And I have escrima training tomorrow 9-11.
Life is good. Or at least, better than it has been for a little while.
I've been moping a bit the last week or two - I've probably driven the people on my "Friends" list nuts with various whingings and whinings. *wry grin* It could be the onset of more winter-like weather and a lack of sunlight over the last couple of weekends, or the fact I haven't had a sound nights' sleep for the past week. Whatever it is, I wish it would go away. I'm just feeling lonely again, is all. There's been a lot of mookiness about, everywhere I go. Or maybe I'm just more aware of it. Any way, the next bloody mushy love song I hear will result in violence, I swear. Probably involving speakers and plate-glass windows. ;)
The other thing that makes me feel less-than-perky is when the ficcer crowd is feuding again. I know people are human and they _do_ have arguments and fights, and believe me, I can handle that. It's just the politics involved - I can handle the fact that some people won't talk to others, but why the fuck should I be dragged into the dispute just because I talk to both? And what's with this sniping at each other in journals? If you have a problem with someone, for goodness' sake, just say so. Don't whinge about it in your journal knowing full well the other person is on your friends list and can/will read it. And even more so, don't act all betrayed just because that person objects to what has been said. Of course they're not going to like being slagged off in someone else's journal. At least be honest about it and confront them directly, giving them the chance to respond and without dragging in all your mutual friends.
Bah. Now I'm all crochety again.
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You make a good point...
Date: 2001-05-17 11:51 pm (UTC)There was someone some years ago in my RP group who would have her character moan and bitch and complain about the other characters outloud around the rest of us, where *we* knew what she was saying, but in-game, her character was in a place where none of the other characters could hear her. We had to sit through listening to her badmouth our characters and not speak up, lest we be accused of "god-moding" or cheating or what have you. It's very frustrating.
I've talked about others twice in my LJs. One person I avoided mentioning by name or with specifics because I wasn't actually talking about her, and I wasn't mad at her in the slightest (Kielle, and a post she made) and I didn't want to risk anyone getting all defensive and going after her for what soon proved to be a miscommunication on our parts and quickly resolved. I kept her name out of it to keep it under control.
The other time I did, I had some thoughts I wanted to get out, not preciesely attacks, mind, but wanted to ponder out some disturbing things I've felt. My LJ wouldn't be showing up in theirs, but mutual people and all that. I was upfront with who I was talking about, and why I was posting it in my LJ instead of confronting them directly. (I didn't think they'd care what I thought one way or another, so I basically said what I felt and kept it in the open, and left the ball in their court if they wanted to discuss things)
One of 'em approached me -- we had a calm conversation, and I recently approached the other after things calmed down IRL for me -- another calm conversation. I prefer dealing with things directly. All I can think is, if you really need to post to get something out of your system before perhaps doing a direct approach, either an IRL journal or making it a private post for your eyes only would be more appropriate.
While I do think it's appropriate to be able to say whatever we want in our journals, they shouldn't be used as a flaming neutral zone where any defenses earn a cry of foul. It's a balance, and each response/reaction depends on what's said and the emotions/maturity of the people involved, perhaps. (and yes, I've been rethinking a few thinks lately myself - I do rethink my opinions if I'm given a logical enough argument)