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deathpixieAnother milestone, another sign of things resolving - today we sat down and divided our possessions.
It's strange how, when it comes down to it, it's a relatively simple thing to do. Or maybe it's a part of my whole nomadic thing that I've never had much of a grip on material possessions; I have my bike and my iBook, and my music and I'm happy. But we did the dividing (on paper) in a very civilised way - *grins* we were trying to give each other stuff rather than both making claims to it. But I'm glad it's done, because I can stop making those lists in my head, of What's Mine and What's His, and I don't have to put up with Mum telling me to make sure he doesn't rip me off.
Something I was saying to Mel yesterday - to me, this whole thing has never been about sides. Yes, he makes me angry and frustrated and sad, but I don't hate him. He's not the Bad Guy. But people keep trying to make this about sides - I guess it's how they deal with the situation themselves - and it makes it all the harder to deal with.
Of course, it's not that unusual a conclusion to come to, that he's evil, when you read previous LJ posts. Especially those around August/September. But I reserve the right to be contradictory. ;)
Another step closer to truly separating. After all this time, it feels strange to think he won't be underfoot all the time.
It's strange how, when it comes down to it, it's a relatively simple thing to do. Or maybe it's a part of my whole nomadic thing that I've never had much of a grip on material possessions; I have my bike and my iBook, and my music and I'm happy. But we did the dividing (on paper) in a very civilised way - *grins* we were trying to give each other stuff rather than both making claims to it. But I'm glad it's done, because I can stop making those lists in my head, of What's Mine and What's His, and I don't have to put up with Mum telling me to make sure he doesn't rip me off.
Something I was saying to Mel yesterday - to me, this whole thing has never been about sides. Yes, he makes me angry and frustrated and sad, but I don't hate him. He's not the Bad Guy. But people keep trying to make this about sides - I guess it's how they deal with the situation themselves - and it makes it all the harder to deal with.
Of course, it's not that unusual a conclusion to come to, that he's evil, when you read previous LJ posts. Especially those around August/September. But I reserve the right to be contradictory. ;)
Another step closer to truly separating. After all this time, it feels strange to think he won't be underfoot all the time.
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Date: 2002-03-17 07:37 pm (UTC)But yeah, it'd be easier to have someone be the Bad Guy. But, alas, life isn't easy. But I think you know that, too. :-)
Anyway. Virtual hug. And I'm thinking of you.