Getting in before the rush.

[deathpixie]

I saw this in lisew and girlyskin's LJs this morning and decided to post it tonight when I got home, only to find it's catching on. So, before everyone is swamped:

Ask me a question. A question about myself, my life, personal, su p erficial, inappropriate, whatever and I will answer it the best I can.

Some answers I may friends lock if they affect others, but otherwise, fire away!i

Comments

*grins big*

[ex-thissuga.livejournal.com]

Hmm. I always want to dig deep when given the opportunity, so... have you ever considered women as sexual creatures? Like, I know given the chance, most women would date women because hey, we get it and men are often dense. But as a sexual, sensual object. You ever see it?

Re: *grins big*

[deathpixie]

I know what prompted this one. ;)

Yes.

*grins* Oh, you want why? Hmm... A few reasons, I suppose. The first is I'm turned on by certain types of physiques, and I have to admit, a fit, well-muscled body of either gender does all kinds of things for me. Hence my obsession with Le Tour De France; cyclists, mmmm... *coughs* Not to say I only sleep with super-athletes, but those are the kinds of bodies I react to in a purely physical manner. There are times, watching sporting events, that I find myself lost in the play of muscles under smooth skin and it doesn't matter what gender the person is. Although women are less bulgy and vein-y. ;)

Touch is another thing - I love the sensation of soft skin and hair, and women have that in spades. ;) I remember posing as a fellow karateka's girlfriend at a club one night to deter a particulary annoying suitor, and she had the softest skin on her shoulders I've ever felt. Like silk.

Third would be my own rather tomboyish tendencies. And this includes a certain... attitude towards some female friends. I get all protective and stuff, not in a motherly manner, but more in a brotherly kind of way. "Hurt her and I'll kill you", sort of thing.

So while I don't _think_ I'm gay, or bi, I can very easily see women as extremely sexual and very sensual. It's hard not to. *grins*s

Re: *grins big*

[ex-thissuga.livejournal.com]

Actually.... that conversation in the falaffel house prompted this. Of course. Not from any self-involved reason. Seriously.

But from the sounds of it I'll have to work out a hell of a lot more... ;D

[icewing.livejournal.com]

Besides hang out with people, what's the one thing you want to do/see when you're in North America this year? Any certain place you want to go, or experience you want to have?

[deathpixie]

I want to see the Canadian Rockies, and hopefully go hiking/camping somewhere there. I have this desire to be out in the wilderness somewhere, look up into the night sky, and not recognise a single constellation. *grins*c

[kendewey.livejournal.com]

What is the most irresponsible thing you’ve ever done?

[deathpixie]

When I was fifteen, I was in Ventureers, which is connected to the Girl/Boy Scout orginaisation. Boys and girls, fifteen to eighteen. Any way, one day we were canoeing, adn there was a section where we had to float down the river sans canoe - tresting or ability to deal with capsizing. I'd done my bit and climbed out of the river at the point indicated, and for some reason I was skimming stones - and I hit one of my fellow Ventureers in the head with one. The guy I had a crush on. I still feel awful about it at odd moments, because it was such a stupidly reckless thing to do.

Re:

[kendewey.livejournal.com]

don't you hate it when those things come back to haunt you at surprising times?

I am uncreative Lass! Watch me ask everyone the same question!

[frito-kal.livejournal.com]

Ten years ago, where did you think you would be at the age you are now, and how is your life different from what you predicted a decade ago?

Re: I am uncreative Lass! Watch me ask everyone the same question!

[deathpixie]

Yikes, ask me something hard why don't you?

*grins* Trying not to be too depressed here... Ten years ago, I was newly twenty-one, and I had it all planned. I was going to become a psychologist, travel overseas on my fabulous earnings, marry BRM and build our own house somewhere in the country. The house would be designed and possibly built by BRM, and once it was done, we'd have kids - he was going to look after them whilst I went back to work.

Of course, things didn't quite work out that way. I didn't get the marks to get into the Honours classes I needed to become a psychologist and went into Criminology instead. I eventually got a job after graduating with the coutrs, and have been doing it ever since. I've been overseas a few times, including my summer camp experiences straight after graduation. I'm single again, and about at the same stage as I was after I finished university - no house, no car, no partner, no kids. But I'm actually not depressed about that, however that last sentence sounds. Because I have freedom now, to do what I want, instead of what people expect.

I'll give this a whirl...

[queenieb.livejournal.com]

What sorts of things do you find the most exasperating... you know... hot buttons that'll just pinch your craw no matter what? Pet peeve... whatever.

Re: I'll give this a whirl...

[deathpixie]

HOw to piss a Rossi off:

1) Denigrate my lifestyle - that is, tell me my choice of a bike as transport, being vegetarian, and generally being as 'green' as possible is stupid, lame or whatever. Also trying to 'convert' me back into the car-using, meat-eating, unevrinmental-living fold.

2) Take pot shots at my friends, particularly when they can't defend themselves. Nothing will arouse my righteous anger so well as seeing a friend upset, especially when they've tried to make amends for any wrongdoing/apologised/not at fault.

3) Deliberate stupidity. People being stupid because they choose to not know anything. There are so many opportunities out there, so much to learn and know, and people just seem content to accept what the commercial tv news tells them.

4) Biogtry. In any form. Make any sort of unflattering comment about any person of any social group, and you'll hear about it from me.

5) Manipulation. Don't even try and twist my words, or get me to do something I don't want to do, because my new outlook is very intolerant of that kind of thing.

Um, that's pretty much all I can think of, really. I'm sure there's a few more, petty-type things, but these are the biggies.t

[kielle.livejournal.com]

Okay, there are so many of these up today I'm gonna have to cheat and use a Standard Question *wink* :

You're idling around at a sidewalk cafe, doing nothing in particular, when you glance up and see the most gorgeous specimen of whichever gender you're NOT into (or LESS into, chee) that you've ever seen. What does he/she look like? WHY is he/she so gorgeous? No cheating and using an existing person/celebrity. ;)

[deathpixie]

Hmm, she would be slender, but not skinny; well-muscled, like a martial artist or a gymnast. Long hair, probably dark, very soft and shiny. Perfect skin. *grins* Don't ask for much, do I? s

[thatpalebluedot.livejournal.com]

"And love is not the easy thing
The only baggage that you can bring
Love is not the easy thing
The only baggage you can bring
Is all that you can't leave behind."

I was listening to this on your mix CD today, and it seemed appropriate. :)

What baggage do you wish you could leave behind? What makes it hardest for you to walk on?

[deathpixie]

I've been thinking on this one throughout the day. Tough question.

I'd have to say my fear of rejection. The feeling that people won't like/love me. It holds me back in so many ways, and it's so deep-rooted it's taking a lot of work to get over. Partly because of trying to get my father's attention as a kid (he was never at home, it seemed), partly because of my high school experiences, where I went from years eight to ten with no friends at all, and those I had in year eleven became my friends out of pity. And my relationship with BRM - he exacerbated that feeling by his criticism of me, especially of the way I behave in a social situation (he says I talk about myself too much).

It's baggage I'm working on ditching - it just is particularly persistent.e

*grins* I like that you talk.

[seraangel.livejournal.com]

Because I talk way too much too. :) So I get someone who'll actually talk for that long with me. These non-talkers, no stamina, I swear. :)

*hugs* And you are liked and loved. Yes, I know this was an answer to a question. But, heck. Sometimes the best way to get rid of something, is some nice positive reinforcement. :)

[foible.livejournal.com]

I'll give you an either or.

What is the one conversation you wish you never had, or the one conversation you wish you'd have had?

[deathpixie]

Conversation I wish I'd had would be one with BRM just after we got back from Woolongong. To be fair, he tried to have this one with me and I wouldn't listen - basically he was trying to say that things had pretty much ended between us, and if I'd let that conversation take place, things would have been a lot more different this past year. We would have broken up then (around November, 1999), I would have stayed in Melbourne, gone to Dexcon single (and without the stress) and two very difficult years would not have taken place.

[darkmark.livejournal.com]

What's the capital of Idaho? ;-)

[deathpixie]

Boise. *grins*‡

In line with Lise

[trishalynn.livejournal.com]

Who's the one person you'd turn bi/gay for for an evening skin-frolick? And yeah, not self-interested in any way either. ^_^

Re: In line with Lise

[deathpixie]

I agree with Seraph and IceWing - it's not possible to 'turn' someone from their established sexuality. If I was to frolic with a woman, it would be in response to my own nature, not because she was so incredibly sexy I couldn't help myself. Mind you, if I found Michelle Yeoh in my bed one night, I would probably go for it. ;)

Seriously, I don't think it's a matter of 'turning' - there may be stuff there I haven't addressed before and is only just surfacing (is that possible at my age?), and if that's the case, what happens, happens.a

Morbid

[iamgerg.livejournal.com]

If you had to give up one of your five senses Which would you give up? What sense stimulus would you miss most?

Re: Morbid

[deathpixie]

Erk. Tricky one - I'm in love with all my senses.

Taste, I think. I could live without it, as long as I still had my sense of smell.

The sense I would miss most would probably be touch - I'm an extremely tactile person, and need _lots_ of stimulus. Unfortunately, the skin-junkie is deprived up here, but I make up for it at ficcer gatherings where I hand out massages to all and sundry. ;)s

And from me . . .

[qodarkness.livejournal.com]

Is there one published story (not fan-fic) that really rips at your heart-strings, that you think of as the perfect story, that makes you wish you had written it (not a novel, either - I'm looking for good short stories *g*)?

I have one and I am going to make you read it next time I see you - it's my Turing Test story to make sure people I like are actually human. I'm sure you'll pass!

Other question - when are you coming to town? I wanna go shoe-shopping *waaah*. I seriously need to buy some f.m. shoes to go with my outfit *g*.

A

Re: And from me . . .

[deathpixie]

"Those Who Walk Away From Omelas" by Ursula K. Le Guin. It's in the collection "The Wind's Twelve Quartes", which has some other good stuff. Amazing story, and I try to live my life as one who won't accept misery in the name of the public good.

As for Sydney and shopping - I'll let you know 'round the end of May. Our back pay should be through by then and I'll know if my finances can manage it by then, and what my folks are up to.u

[http://users.livejournal.com/_bounce_/]

Not original, and I've asked other people this too.
What is the most incredible thing you have ever done?

[deathpixie]

Grf, I think I liked the regret question better.

Going to Japan for a year as an exchange student at the age of sixteen would be up there. It was an amazing experience, and did me a world of good in terms of confidence and self-belief.

Getting my black belt. I didn't think I'd ever be able to do it, and physically there's a lot of reasons why I shouldn't, but I did.f

[acetal.livejournal.com]

I was thinking about Plato, Tolkin, and the ring of Gyges, but we've already talked about that.

With reference to society, what are some of the underlying reasons for the fascination with the theme of invisibility? Make as many references to philosophy and literature as you like.

[nute.livejournal.com]

Much of what you've learned in your thi*coughcough*one years, you've learned through trial and pain, but come out the stronger for it. That being said, how well do you view advice or statements made on subjects you've had experience with, made by people who haven't gone through experiences as harrowing?

~M.

[deathpixie]

Thirty-two now, Nute. *grins* You lost one. ;)

Very good question. One I've been pondering before answering.

On the one hand, I believe not everyone you know has to be learned through experience. There's a lot that _can't_ be learned through experience. And sometimes not havinng gone through something gives the person giving the advice/statement a sense of objectivity that I might not have. Sometimes it's good to have that viewpoint, especially when you're so caught up in something you can't see straight.

On the other hand, there's a certain feeling of connection, of understanding, when talking with someone who has had similar experiences. There's some things, no matter how much empathy and book-learning you have, you can't understand unless you've been through.

I'll listen to what people have to say, always. If I think they're wrong because of lack of knowledge, I might gently correct them. If I think they just can't know what it's like, I'll keep that thought to myself and take said advice with a grain of salt - it's not their fault they haven't had the experience, and there's some things I wouldn't wish on anyone. Just as there's some things I haven't experienced myself, and hope to never have to. If I need that 'been there too' kind of talk, I'll seek it out, but I won't completely ignore what others say simply on the grounds they haven't done it themselves. Like I said, sometimes an objective perspective helps.

My turn to ask a question. :)

[seraangel.livejournal.com]

Hmm, only one question. *grins* It's interesting because one of the things I used to love doing with friends was the Q&A session. Where I or they would ask a question, and then you or they would answer, and then get the person asking's answer as well. :)

But anyway, that one question.

If you had a choice between dying right this instant, with no chance to say goodbye or put your affairs in order, knowing that you would have secured the human race's and the planet's future for the good. Or living out a normal span of time, but always knowing that you could have done the above but didn't. What would you choose?

Re: My turn to ask a question. :)

[deathpixie]

It sounds terribly heroic of me, but I'd choose to die. Because no matter how important my life is to me and my family and friends, in the scheme of things, it isn't that much. And if my death would secure a happy future for the planet (humanity can look after itself *grins* only kidding), then I would do it in an instant. I'd much rather _live_ for the benefit of others, but if that was the choice, my choice would be to die.